idk when we decided that explaining yourself shouldn’t be part of an apology but like. if someone was a dick to me and apologizes but I still don’t understand why they did it I’m not gonna feel any better
“Sorry for hurting your feelings earlier. I was trying to say x, but I guess it came across wrong. I don’t think you’re stupid.”
or
“Sorry I snapped at you. I didn’t get enough sleep last night so my patience is a little low today.”
is a better apology than
“I want you to know that I am sorry that my actions offended you. I take full accountability for my actions and I am listening and learning. I hear you.”
(via sparrowmoth)
I feel like the legal institution of adoption is unreasonably limited by restricting it to parent-child relationships. If me and some random asshole want to legally be second cousins, I think we should just be able to do that.
This concept is hilarious. Yes we’re now cousins but there’s no aunts/uncles/parents connecting us. Cut out the middle man completely. We’re just family but not directly related ya know?
You understand me precisely.
For everybody saying “well ACTUALLY you can just decide to call whoever you want your uncle/cousin/whatever”, this isn’t about kinship – it’s about bureaucracy. I want to cause problems on purpose.
(via bob-belcher)
I think that a lot of the Buddha’s problems could have been worked out more productively through kink.
*adds this to the middle section of a Venn Diagram where one circle is labeled “The Buddha” and the other is labeled “Ayn Rand”*
(via v3rb4tim)
Can’t believe im adult now. Sometimes I feel like a teletubbie with a credit card.
(via cryptid-corpse)
some songs just aren’t meant to be played on speakers they need to be heard through headphones. it’s called intimacy
(via reh-hateshumans)
Any recipe that involves a bunch of vegetable chopping yet promises a mere “10 minutes” of prep…… who the fuck do you think I am, man. You think I’m a chef? You think I’m a professional chef with lightning knife skills and impeccable mise en place? These veggies and I are in it for the long haul, my man, we’re gonna be spending at LEAST half an hour struggling along together before they’re ready to go in the pan
(via milverton)
I wish I could tell Redditors that their abusive parent, in all likelihood, did not have a real diagnosable personality disorder and that armchair diagnosing them with a cluster b personality disorder and then villainizing the mentally ill is not helping anyone. What happened to “my dad was an asshole. a fucking bastard. a jerk who hurt me very badly.” why is it now “my father was a malignant narcissist. I was a victim of narcissistic abuse, not just emotional and physical child abuse. he definitely had NPD and that’s why he was so evil. and I know because I read it online”.
There are many people did have abusive and/or neglectful parents who happened to be struggling with a real, tangible, diagnosed mental illness. It can be helpful to look back and think and know “Some of my parent’s behavior was exacerbated by their hoarding disorder, chronic depression, substance use disorder etc etc. That is an explanation but not an excuse. It was their responsibility to protect me, to try to get better and they failed. They did not continue to hurt me because they were unwell but because they were abusive and selfish. I have a genetic and environmental predisposition to develop the same illness and behaviors so I’m hyperaware of my own health and relationship to keep the cycle from repeating.” but that’s not what the whole ‘narcissistic abuse’ community is about. It’s the opposite of introspective and empathetic and mental health conscious and socially aware.
(via thepeacefulgarden)
